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SEARCH FOR WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU DO AGREE ON
The simplest way to align yourself with another person is to agree on an idea. However, there will be lots of times when you agree with some things but disagree on others. A good way to handle this kind of mixed situation is to focus on the things that you do agree on first. Leave your areas of disagreement or conflict for another time after you've already established a solid base of rapport.
While you can rarely agree completely with another person, there are ways to make the other person feel validated and understood. By learning how to align yourself with others, you'll build bridges of communication that allow your relationship to continue and grow even when you don't exactly agree on certain issues.
The Bottom Line
Remember that in order to "talk like a winner" in the broadest sense, you must "align like a winner" as well. All you have to do is follow a simple and powerful rule: Seek the common ground. Once you appreciate the significance of this essential part of successful communication, it's only a matter of experimenting with the ideas, practicing with a greater sense of purpose, and putting it to the test regularly in your own life until it becomes a constructive new habit.
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