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POSE A QUESTION WITH POSITIVE INTENTIONS
Make sure that you are agreeable and positive in your intentions. If you do this, then you'll be sending out the right kind of supportive energy that the speaker will naturally pick up on. You don't want to make the other person feel defensive by making them wrong about what they are talking about. Get a sense of what direction they'd like to go and choose instead to go along with them on their verbal ride. For example, if the other person describes an experience of theirs as being "challenging", ask a question and gets them to say "yes" like, "So it was no joke then. This thing that happened to you was more than challenging, right?"
By experimenting with each of these suggestions, you can greatly improve your ability to interact effectively. You do this by keeping the conversation flowing in the direction that you both want to go. And that is for an enjoyable experience for everyone involved.
The Bottom Line
When you ask like a winner, other people will begin to appreciate your sincere involvement in a conversation. You will be communicating to them that you care about whom they are and what they say. And most of all, by helping them get into the flow of a conversation and letting them express themselves fully, you'll be making them feel important.
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